When Patrick Resta returned from a tour in Iraq, his wife Melissa hardly recognized him. He was always angry. He couldn’t sleep. He wouldn’t go to the grocery store – it was too crowded. At Christmas time, he didn’t want to spend any time with her. Now, Patrick goes to the VA for treatment for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and the couple takes life “one day at a time.”
A team of researchers from Walter Reed Army Medical Center found 95% of soldiers deployed to Iraq reported seeing dead bodies and remains, 95% had been shot at, and 89% had been ambushed or attacked. 69% had seen an injured woman or child and felt they could not provide assistance.
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My Husbands 2nd deployment.
That Article about that ladies husband is so sad. My husband just had to go back to Iraq for a 2nd tour. I could see a difference when he came back the 1st time, Mostly with his driving habits he would drive almost like he was hugging the middle of the road b/c he said that is how they are told to drive in Iraq, and whenever he would hear a loud sound he would jump, and the nightmares were pretty bad as well, our son now is 4, so he is taking this deployment very hard.
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I feels so sorry for the spouses and there families, I know exactly what they are going thru, just a different war, I come from the VN era. Back in those days, they didnt reconize PTSD and you didnt dare talk about it. Families pretended all was ok, and hope that it would one day go away. It wont, not without help. at least now we reconize it. My husband was in VN twice, the first time I noticed a different person, we were riding in a taxi and it backfired, wow the next thing I noticed was my husband on the floor board of the car. I was sure this would pass. The second time around the nightmare for all of us began. The nightmares, the sweats the anger, a different outlook on life. The happy go lucky husband with all his big dreams was gone. I knew he was in there somewhere, and wondered would this ever end. Well it doesnt, not without help. It destroys marriages, children dont understand why there daddy doesnt want to go places where there is alot of other ppl. The drinking, getting up at night to see your husband sitting in the dark crying. You start to live in a fantasy world where everyone thinks your life is a happy perfect one, cause you dont want anyone to know your secret. It took years before my husband would even talk about VN and the only thing he ever said was I met the devil in Nam. Now we all understand or at least beginning to understand what they are going thru. My best advice is even if you dont see the signs go for counciling ASAP After all these yrs and a strong belief my husband is coming to grips with his demons, and now we talk about it, and talk to others who had gone thru the same thing. This might be a different war, but they are fighting the same demons. Please dont wait, life is to short. After all these yrs my husband is back, not completly the same, his innocents was lost all those yrs ago, but he is back, as much as he will ever be.